“Always face what you fear. Have just enough money, never too much, and some string. Even if it’s not your fault it’s your responsibility. Witches deal with things. Never stand between two mirrors. Never cackle. Do what you must do. Never lie, but you don’t always have to be honest. Never wish. Especially don’t wish upon a star, which is astronomically stupid. Open your eyes, and then open your eyes again.”— Terry Pratchett, A Hat Full of Sky (via gadding-about)
if I could say just one thing to all the high schoolers out there it’s remember that deep down everyone is just as insecure as you
which means if you need to totally bitch someone out for being horrible to you it’ll probably work better than you expect
try using words of four or more syllables big words confuse bullies
Anonymous asked: Dear Captain Manners, I am utterly overwhelmed by difficult lessons and attempts to find gainful employment. Any tidbits of wisdom you could offer on reducing stress would be most appreciated. Even a mantra will do; I’m getting somewhat desperate, and my sleeping habits are suffering from it. I’d prefer to abstain from pharmaceutical intervention, as I happen to be allergic to most sleeping pills. Suffocation is not conducive to a good night’s rest, as I’m sure you’re aware.
Even a Distinguished Gentleperson of Captain Manners’ stature is now and then overwhelmed by stress; when this occurs the Captain has found the following methods most successful in relieving this condition, depending on the specifics of the situation:
- find a small animal that is not venomous and which will not bite, or struggle, or soil you, and pet it continuously;
- take some time off to explore a mountain, an island, the depths of a rainforest, &c., that has yet to be conquered by human ingenuity (a particular favourite of the Captain’s, but do be sure that no humans live there already before you claim your conquest);
- purchase or concoct a favourite comestible and enjoy it either slowly or quickly according to your preference;
- weep quietly into the textile of your choice;
- locate an inanimate object which you dislike and shout profanities at it, or hurl it angrily at or off something;
- listen to the song of the whales.
OOPS totally thought I’d answered this one already, sorry.
My best advice is to take notes as you plan/worldbuild/whatever? In whatever form is most useful to you. Some people like to do comprehensive outlines of the plot and that works beautifully for them. My personal creative process is scattered six ways to sunday and my notes reflect this; I’ve got a txt document of plot notes that are more aimless rambling than anything else, along with pages and pages of poorly labeled spreadsheets, a playlist of music, and a folder of tektek.org pixel dolls of various fantroll character designs. But! It’s all in places where I can dig it up, and it’s all details that I think may be relevant as I work.
And don’t be afraid to bounce ideas off of other people as you develop them - maybe you work best with a dedicated beta, maybe you like to toss worldbuilding around with a few friends in the same fandom or the same genre, maybe your thoughts are best put in order by explaining them to some random guy on the bus. A set of fresh eyes on your work can really help, but again, that’s up to you to determine what kind of fresh eyes and in what context is most useful to you.
Learn to accept praise. I know, I know, when someone runs up and says “I love your work!” your inclination is to mumble an apology for wasting their time with your crappy art, or to say “It’s not that great.”
This is not about you.
If somebody says “I love your art,” and you say “My art is awful,” then guess what? You just insulted them. You have told them, in effect, that what they love is crap and that they have poor taste. Clamp your teeth down on that urge, smile, and say “Thank you.” If you can’t think of a single other thing to say, I make you a gift of this phrase—”Thank you. You’re very kind.” Say this when you want to scream that you messed up the knees on the horse and the tail on the fox and the eyeballs on the woman. If you have to say it every single time, then do. You don’t have to believe it, you don’t have to jump on the table and say “That’s right, I’m AWESOME!”—
But don’t insult them.” — Ursula Vernon (via hawkeward)
“Crying doesn’t mean you’re weak… it just means you’ve been strong for too long.” You are not less than anyone else because of your hurt - you are just as important and wonderful as all of us. Being strong doesn’t mean never crying, never showing emotion or vulnerability. You are pushing on, beautiful and so amazing, even if you don’t think so - and I hope you can see that some day, if you don’t already.
so wait i understand most terms but what does queer mean
would i be considered a queer because i’m bisexual or wh
I’ve seen it both as a catch-all for gender and sexual minorities, as as a term for GSM folk who don’t identify closely with any other particular term? General consensus seems to be that if you want to claim it and are not straight and cis (one or the other is fine, just not both), you’re entitled, but you’re not obligated to identify as such and should be cautious in applying it to others without their permission, because it’s still actively used as a slur in some places.
I need help.
Fellow chubby girls, I AM BEGGING YOU to help me.
Alright, so I have a stomach that sticks out of my clothes when I sit and everything. The whole shabam. And since it is spring and the temperature is rising, I’m focusing more and more on my stomach and it over powers my thoughts and I feel discouraged like 24/7. How do you girls have so much confidence and how do you not pay attention to little things like this? Please help me. :-(
- Remember, a lot of the basic “trendy” stuff out there is designed for small girls and badly scaled up for people our size. If it doesn’t look right on you, it’s not because you’re defective. It’s because the fashion industry tends to not go out of its way to do right by us big girls. It’s easy to feel bad when your clothes don’t fit right, so you may have to look a little further to find what works for you.
- Personally, and while I also have issues with tummy/muffin top I may not have quite the same body type as you so take this with a grain of salt and don’t be afraid to experiment, I favor either high-waisted pants and skirts, or short dresses over fun stockings or tights.
- I’ve learned to focus on my best features rather than my worst, and draw attention to the good rather than the bad - I like my legs, so I put bold stripy over-the-knee socks on them. I like my eyes, so I wear dramatic eye makeup. I like the texture of my hair - it’s thick and has crazy loose natural curls - but I’m not crazy about the natural color of it, which could charitably be called dishwater blonde but mostly is just mousy. So I dye it blue.
- Put all that together, and I’m the girl in the cute tall socks and purple eyeshadow with the bright blue hair, not the girl with the gut or the heavy shoulders.
- Stay physically active - you don’t need to be running marathons, or even really trying to lose weight if you don’t want to focus on that, but physical exertion really does wonders for keeping your brain chemistry balanced.
- Stay mentally active - the more time you spend reading, or writing, or solving puzzles, or working quadratic equations, or observing newts in their natural environment, or debating politics, or watching Mythbusters, or whatever it is you like doing that requires you to think about stuff, the less time you will have to brood about your tummy.
- Keep a sense of humor - when I’m having a bad body-image day, sometimes I’ll go find some Miss Piggy quotes.
- Remember it’s ok to be down some of the time! No one is happy all the time, especially when society is so intent on telling you there’s something wrong with how you look. It doesn’t make you a failure if you are not happy with everything about yourself all the time. But don’t be afraid to reach out for help when you need it, either!
- Reader: Dear Mr. Snicket, What is the best way to keep a secret?
- Lemony Snicket: Tell it to everyone you know, but pretend you are kidding.
- Write more.
- Let people read your writing, even if you aren’t putting your name on it.
- Accept that not everyone is going to like everything you write.
- Figure out where your threshold is between “haters gonna hate” and “I appreciate concrit.”
- Push said threshold one or two notches toward the concrit side.
- Keep writing.
- Write things you aren’t sure you can write.
- (I at one point wrote a short piece for the kink meme in which Dave talked Tavros into brushing his teeth for him.)
- Write things you know you’re good at writing.
- Write drabbles.
- Write chaptered fics.
- Write meta.
- Keep writing.
- Talk to other writers.
- Talk to yourself.
- Talk to your characters.
- Out loud.
- In public.
- Or not.
- That’s cool too.
- Write some more.
- Don’t stop writing.